I have a beautiful Gratitude Journal, covered in sunflowers, called “A Life Of Gratitude” by Lori Roberts. I love it because the pages are beautiful, and they prompt me to think about life in a different way.
One of the pages talked about there being a season for everything and suggested taking a moment to reflect on what change means to you; that each time in our lives has a purpose and to think about who you are now, compared to who you were in the past.
Back in the Summer of 2011, when my youngest daughter was about to embark on secondary school, my life felt like it was changing drastically and of course it was. I suppose it now seems silly, but my third child moving on to senior school was bringing out many different emotions in me. I remember dropping her there for her first induction day (she did not know anyone at all) and then literally sobbing all the way home. I could not wait to get back and collect her. I’m sure many parents can empathise with these changes. I had only worked part-time while the children were in Primary school, so now felt that I needed to find more work to help out at home. I’ve never been good with change and so stress started to show in my physical body. This started with my eyes; they slowly became itchy, red, and watery, which then flared up my eczema until my eyes and my face were a complete swollen and weepy mess. This continued to get worse for a few weeks – I had of course sought medical advice and I was given a few different diagnoses and treatments which only served to make things worse. It took me at least five minutes in the bath in the mornings, with a hot face cloth, to soak and unstick my eyes. I would get up and go to the bathroom blind. My vision was constantly blurred. No-one was considering the underlying cause, not even me at this point.
This leads me to the fact that everything has a season, and with this condition, I felt ugly, I felt sad. The way I looked made me more stressed, and the stress led to the condition getting worse. This was my Winter, both in season and in my soul – I wanted to hibernate, hide myself away. Everywhere I went I wore sunglasses. Finally, a friend suggested I go to see a Healer. Though I had heard of Healing, I had never experienced it, but I was open to anything. I first visited Roger, a Spiritual Healer, in November of 2011 and it was the first time I felt – in fact knew for certain – that I would get better. I would Heal. As soon as I met him, I felt some of the worry drain away. That first Healing was like nothing I had ever experienced before – the warmth, the energies, all served to calm me. You cannot feel stressed when in a space of Healing, especially when using your breath to breathe deeply and consciously. The music that was playing that evening, “Eternal” by Miriam Stockley, was so beautiful and added to the whole experience. I still play this during Healing sessions today and even now, I am transported back to my first time sitting on that Healing stool.
It took quite a few sessions of Healing to clear up my eyes and skin, but each time, I started to look more and more like myself again. I cried a LOT during some of these appointments, but this all served to release my anxieties. Roger, never faltered in his belief that Healing would help me, he was kind and patient throughout.
Finally, when my eyes were wide open again and my skin was clear, I stopped going for Healing. Spring was on the Horizon, and for me it definitely felt like the end of one thing and that something new was beginning. I honestly felt like I was emerging from a cocoon, not quite a butterfly, not that beautiful … yet – but definitely somewhere inbetween. I found it hard to walk away from the Healing as I had embraced it so much and had so much to be grateful for. How could I suddenly not be around this life-changing energy? I felt renewed in a way I cannot explain, but at the same time, I felt bereft. Healing was in my soul now, but I didn’t know what to do about it.
I had kept in touch with Roger and he said to me one day that he had a feeling I could do this – give Healing to others. I was surprised as I hadn’t really considered becoming a Healer myself, but I went and had lunch with him and his wife, Jennie, and we chatted about all things Spiritual and Magical.
After a couple of visits, Roger said ‘OK, today you can do some Healing on me’ – I was so nervous, ridiculously so, but I did it. A little awkwardly to be sure, but it felt good. I worked with him for a while, building up my confidence and he introduced me to a couple of his clients, to whom we gave joint Healing. He really did nurture me through the Healing process and I am thankful and grateful beyond words to have had this personal encouragement.
I wanted to continue with my Healing and to help others and so registered with a tutor, a beautiful and wonderful soul, Ann Coleman, with whom I gained my Accreditation to become a Healer Practitioner in Spiritual Healing. From there I set up my little business, Sunshine Healing, and have never looked back.
Just over two years ago, I made a short promotional video and I was so nervous, I literally sweated buckets that day. I was pleased with the result and the feedback I received was positive, but even in these last two years I can see how much self-confidence I have gained and, looking back, I feel like it was a different me that made that video.
I feel I am now in my Summer phase – I have finally emerged as a new, improved, far more confident version of me. In the last few months, I have started to do live videos on Facebook. I NEVER thought I would be capable of this, yet I have found that I love it. Thanks for this go to a wonderful Facebook group that I am in, and namely Marion Morley, for suggesting we all practice our Live videos within a safe space. The first time I did it, I put it off until almost midnight, then jumped nervously on and did a quick ‘hello’.
What does the future hold? We have certainly had time to reflect in this period of ‘lock-down’ and uncertainty and I know that I want to be able to offer more Healing, to reach more people both in person and on-line. I would like to work more with crystals and incorporate this into a Healing session. I also have given guided meditation sessions online, both in groups and one-to-one. I write these myself and this brings me joy. I am also in the process of recording these meditations, so will be able to offer them for sale later this year.
I love working online, I can reach out to the whole world! I have worked with an amazing mindset coach, Brooke Bownes, who has encouraged me to move forward. I am embracing life and I am so grateful to her for all her amazing support. Furthermore, having experienced for myself and through my clients the power of talking before and after Healing sessions, I would like to take a course to complement this – talking therapy of some kind. I am a great listener and get so much satisfaction and upliftment from seeing other people feel better through the power of Healing and talking. It would be lovely to offer something different to clients.
I still work with Roger once a week (although we had a huge gap during Lockdown) and he tells me I have become a wonderful Healer – to me this is the highest compliment I can receive as it was from him that I learned not only about giving Healing, but to be absolutely passionate about it. He has been through some health issues in the past couple of years, and I am truly thankful to have been able to help him cope like he once helped me. As indeed, he still does help me. Roger, who is also a talented musician, wrote and played the beautiful and perfect music that accompanies my promotional video. It makes me smile so much to realise how lucky I am.
I find I am stepping out of my comfort zone more and more and this is scary sometimes, but so exciting. The more I do this, the more I step into my own personal power and I love that I can shine my light brightly and help other people. I have also written some song words, which I’m hoping to incorporate into a recording with my light language or use it within the meditations (or maybe both) I’m not sure yet.
As for the season of Autumn, I feel that we all experience the shedding of layers from time to time, a period of letting go, appreciating the moments of beauty, colour, change; as we rest, allowing rejuvenation to take place, so that we may step into our true selves more and more over time, with renewed energy and life.
We are ever changing, finding new ways to grow and learn, whilst keeping our roots firmly anchored into the Earth as we do so. Allow and observe these changes and welcome them in with open arms.
I have been on a wonderful, spiritual, Healing journey, and feel that I have finally stepped into the sunshine and spread my beautiful wings. They are bright and vibrant, and I feel that over the coming seasons of my life, they will fly me higher and further towards my vision. I am grateful, I am thankful, I am lucky.
I AM A BUTTERFLY 🦋
Originally written – 10/4/2020 (Lockdown)
Sheila and Patrick – our Irish landlords from whom we rented our basement
The Woolstones – the family we stayed with when we first arrived in Vancouver
Gail – the lady I worked with at CKVU TV
Dear Mum and Dad,
Hello there – hope you’re both okay – still missing you very much!
Friday 23rd March 1990
Went to work for the last day at Montreal Shipping. It was becoming quite interesting in the end although I couldn’t have stuck that telexing job forever! Also, I was getting to know a lot of the people there. They told me before I left that I had done really well and that a couple of people there had sent memos saying they wanted to hire me permanently. So, I came home feeling quite pleased with myself, as I had been very nervous about first working in Canada.
Went for dinner at a restaurant called Cockney King – it’s a fish and chip restaurant and is run by an Englishman. Vince drove us there in his van. The cod and chips was quite nice, but still not quite the same as English fish and chips.
Saturday 24th March 1990
Went to aerobics. Carolynn didn’t go as she is coming to the end of term at University and she has a lot of studying to do. Vince picked me up and we went to Denny’s for brunch, which brought back memories as it’s the place where we used to go for breakfast every morning when we came here on holiday. Vince of course had the pancakes, egg and sausage!!
Nuns on the Run
As it was a lovely day, we drove out in the car with the roof down, to Coquitlam to look at some open houses. They were very nice, but it just seems so far away from Vancouver and the North Shore. I think we’re both starting to think more along the lines of buying an older, smaller property on the North Shore and slowly doing it up. It should still be a bigger property by our standards though. It’s just so nice in North Vancouver, convenient for the city, for the mountains, for Stanley Park etc. etc. Still, we’ll have to wait and see. Followed a sign that said Pitt Lake – it took us all along these quiet farm roads that were getting nearer and nearer to the base of the mountains. It was also getting colder! Found it after quite a drive and it was quite lovely. A great big lake right at the foot of the mountains and it looks as though you could walk for miles, but it was now quite late in the day, so we didn’t go too far. I drove the TR6 back along the quiet roads. God, it’s going to take me a while to get used to it. I was really uncoordinated! Because I was on the other side of the road and the other side of the car, my feet wanted to do different things. I kept pressing the brake pedal to change gear!! I don’t know how Vince takes to it so easily. I guess being nervous doesn’t help. This evening went to see a funny film “Nun’s On The Run” – it’s Eric Idle and Robbie Coltrane. I didn’t think I’d enjoy it much, but I did.
Got your letter today. Again, it was so great reading it – I get so disappointed when I get to the last page though, so I read it all over again (several times). I’m sure the letter smells of your perfume Mum. You know I told you, you always smell nice, well this letter definitely smells of your perfume. Did you spray it? Anyway, I keep smelling it because it’s comforting.
Glad to hear you’re reading up on everything Canadian and wow that Vancouver featured on Holiday ’90. Sadly, we have not seen any of the ice-skating because we didn’t have a tele – but we do now! It made me laugh that you’ve been cheering on the Canadians! Glad to hear you’ve put your first super on the beehive – don’t forget I want some of your first honey when you come visit. You sounded so disheartened in your letter at not selling the house yet. You mustn’t give up though – it will turn out alright in the end. And if you do happen to lose Briar Dene, it just means you’ll find something even better. You could always move to Vancouver??!! I’ve been told you can do very well with bed and breakfast on Vancouver Island, as it’s very English over there and property is extremely cheap.
Sunday, 25th March 1990
Took the Skytrain to New Westminster Quay. It took about half an hour. It’s by the water, like Lonsdale Quay, but it’s not half as nice. Had a wander round and got some lunch, then went on a coastal patrol boat that was docked there for people to have a look around. Went to the Woolstones for dinner but left earlier because of getting up for work in the morning.
Monday 26th March 1990
My first day at CKVU. Gail, the lady I work with is a really sweet and nice person. She showed me around the building and introduced me to everyone, although it will be ages before I know who everybody is! They have two studios there, one that they use every day for the news and a couple of talk programs and a larger one that’s used on occasion for game shows etc. Did quite boring work today, but I didn’t mind, it was nice to not have so much responsibility for a change. The day went very quickly, and it seemed really strange to finish at 3 pm. But it was a nice sunny warm day, so I felt really free! I went into town and then to Lonsdale Quay and really enjoyed myself. Vince picked me up as I was walking home from the bus-stop. He had a pretty good day too. Sheila and Patrick came down to us for a change after dinner for a cup of tea and a chat. Patrick has got new teeth – he’s had a gap at the front for a while now, so he looks much better. He’s a messy eater though and talks with his mouth full, so I can’t look at him! He’s a funny little man (although very nice) – he looks like a Leprechaun. Vince does a pretty good impression of him!
Tuesday 27th March 1990
Had a nice day at work again. A couple of people came by my desk and said that if I ever need any help to give them a call. People are just so friendly. Went into the library to write down some more refrigeration companies from the yellow pages in case Vince needs them.
Got home to find Vinny Ninny with a bad cold. Went shopping to Save-On and had a great time, bought lots of bits and pieces like a few loose herbs, some tubs of jam and marmalade and some fill-it-yourself fizzy drink. We got strawberry and pina colada, but there are about 20 flavours to choose from. Spent about an hour shopping! “Oh, what did you do this evening, Jo?” “We went to Save-On and had fun shopping!” – mad, aren’t we?
Wednesday 28th March 1990
Was a lovely day again and after work went to Lonsdale Quay to shop for your Easter presents! When I got home, Sheila and Patrick were sitting on their garden hammock having a drink. I went out to say hello and they talked me into having a glass of wine, so we all ended up sitting round the garden table, then Vince came home, and they gave him a beer. It was a lovely mild evening, so a drink and chat was quite nice. Well, they chat, and we listen – ha ha.
Went to register for a computer course and managed to get a two-day one, which is better than a few weeks and means I can go onto the next level quicker. I’m using a word-processor at work, so it will be useful. Vince had a good day at work, and they are talking about giving him a bit more money and hopefully doubling his salary by the end of the year.
Thursday 29th March 1990
Had to fill in lots of forms for work today. It’s good though, I get medical and dental benefits for myself and Vince. Also, if you pay $3.00 a month out of your salary, it means that everyone gets a birthday cake on their birthday or they send flowers on occasions. Also, you can join a group and they organise outings, such as picnics etc. so that’s nice. Found out today I will be working 9.30 till 3pm now, so I’ve gained half hours pay a day already. Stayed in this evening with a lovely fire – Vince is getting quite good at building them now.
Friday 30th March 1990
Quite busy today at work. I could have easily worked full-time. One of the men who works there, Oliver, showed me the TV Studio (inside) where they shoot the news and chat programs. It was quite interesting.
Got home to find Vince watching tele – his boss has lent it to us which is nice of him. Went out to dinner at Café Nairobi – it’s East Indian food with a difference and it was really good. Heather had given us a voucher from the paper, so we got $10 off. I watched Dallas when we got home. Hooray!! I was a bit confused as I’ve missed a few weeks now.
Saturday 31st March 1990
Us at The Woolstone’s surprise Anniversary party – on dear – my perm!!
Carolynn wasn’t going to aerobics, and I had every intention of going, until I got up. Then, I decided to go back to sleep. Naughty me! Cheryl came round, she and Carolynn are holding a surprise party for Heather and George tonight as it’s their 30th wedding anniversary. Vince and I have the job of putting up decorations and balloons, while they are all out for dinner! We also had to keep the cake and take it round with us. Anyway, there we both were letting in all these guests we’d never met! Mind you, everybody knew about us. People kept saying to me “Oh, so how’s it going at CKVU?” and I wanted to say, “How the hell do you know?” except it’s very obvious Heather talks about us to everyone which is quite flattering really. I wore my new outfit that you sent me, and I think almost everyone there said how lovely it was, so of course I told them very proudly that my Mum and Dad had sent it for my birthday. Heather said, “Wow, your Mum sure knows your size and what suits you!” Anyway, Heather and George were really surprised when we all jumped out. It turned out to be a good party. Wish you could have been there. Some of the elderly couples there were so funny – they sound and look like the typical kind of couples on American TV series. I was probably really staring at them: “Oh my dear, your outfit is just goooorgeous!” (You have to read that bit in a Canadian accent). One of their neighbours is an estate agent, so is going to keep his eye out for us for good bargains, when we are ready to buy. When I went to the kitchen to do something, I found Smokey Cat cosily nestled on the kitchen window-sill. Cheeky little bugger! He really does take liberties these days!!
Sunday 1st April 1990
The Beautiful North Shore at Night
Was lovely to speak to you when you called, and Nan too. You sounded very happy, so I was happy! We had just eaten some waffles for breakfast with strawberry and apple jam (Save-On), but Vince had maple syrup. Went to Granville Island to have a look around. It was very busy as the weather was nice. Vince showed me a very nice boat that he had worked on in the week – it’s lovely. We wouldn’t mind a nice boat (when we’re rich). Vince is quite pleased because he hasn’t done refrigeration on boats before, so it’s something new for him, plus nice scenery. Went to look at some older houses on the North Shore. One wasn’t too bad, and we could have done a lot with it. It had plenty of garden, so you could extend, but at least the houses were affordable, so there’s hope to stay over in this direction yet.
I drove the car out on the highway (slowly) and I quite enjoyed it. Vince is quite good, he keeps telling me to relax and not to worry about it, but I think my knuckles were white!! I felt much better driving it today though. This evening watched a film “Moses” – I’ve never seen it before; it was very good.
Monday 2nd April 1990
Quite busy at work today and it’s getting quite interesting too. When I got home, Patrick asked me if I wanted a glass of wine in the garden. I said ‘no thanks’ because I was tired and would probably fall asleep. Sheila offered me a soft drink which I accepted, then she said she’d put a little wine in it anyway! Blimey, you can’t win! Anyway, she came out and had put in it, mango juice, wine, vodka and some angostura bitters. It was actually delicious, but I mean REALLY!
I drove the car to Deep Cove and then we stopped at White Spot for a burger dinner. Forgot to get anything out the freezer you see and with no microwave, what can you do but go out?!
Tuesday 3rd April 1990
Was talking to one of the audio men at work today and he said that any time I want to go into the studio to watch a program I can, so I might take him up on that.
Prospect Point in Stanley Park
After dinner, we dove to Prospect Point in Stanley Park and watched the sunset, it was just beautiful. We never have the camera at the right times though. Drove round a bit to Lost Lagoon then walked right round it, there are so many ducks on the water. It’s so pretty and as we walked round one side, the sun was setting through the trees and was reflected on the water and then when you reach the other side, the City lights are reflected – it’s lovely and very romantic. Afterwards, we drove around the park and you can see the lights of the City and the Lion’s Gate Bridge – I don’t think I’ll ever grow tired of how pretty it looks. Everything I see, I just keep saying. “I wish Mum and Dad could see all this”.
Got your next letter today. I must be getting a bit behind with this one. I’ve just got back into routine after starting work. I will post this off tomorrow. Oh, Mum and Dad, I’m so sorry to hear you’ve lost Briar Dene. I know how much you both wanted that cottage. I wish I could give you both a big hug and tell you not to worry, please don’t lose heart. To answer your question: I had 19 birthday cards, not too bad for long-distance! The picture on the card you sent me was beautiful. I am sorry, but I did have a really good laugh about the kid in the supermarket being sick and it splashing on your leg. I’m sure it wasn’t really funny at all, but the way you wrote it was hilarious!!
I will finish now as I think I should get this letter off to you. Don’t be disheartened too much, everything will turn out okay one way or another, so keep smiling.
Sign-off from Jo
Pat and Mick (Pat is Mum’s work friend and her husband, Mick)
Angie (also a work colleague and a chatterbox)
Old Face Ache (Mum’s boss at the Dentist)
Sheila and Pete (Dad’s cousin Sheila and he husband Pete aka P.J. from P.J. and Rose)
Nanny Maisie (My Dad’s Mum, who sadly died when I was 3 years old)
Great Nan (Alice) – Maisie’s Mum. A beautiful twinkly-eyed lady who passed away when I was about 15)
Our Dear Joanne & Vince,
Sunday 18th March 1990
It’s so hard to start a letter. It’s the most difficult part of letter writing! Anyway, here we go again. Went shopping on my own on Saturday because deep down I know Dad doesn’t like coming. It was a beautiful day and Tommy Tortoise really enjoyed having a good feed up. I could hardly wait for Saturday night, I get so excited when it’s time to ring you and very emotional. God, what would we do without the telephone? We are very pleased about your car. I can just imagine you driving about in that – Dad and James said you are both Canadian Yuppies, but I think Dad is a bit jealous!! What colour is it? It sounds red to me.
Went and picked Nanny up before dinner today and took her to the Chatham Crematorium to put a plant by Grandad’s plaque. She kept saying no-one had taken her to see it yet. We told her that we had taken her down before Christmas and said ‘don’t you remember that Joanne came with us?’ but she insisted that she had not seen it. Poor Nan. Anyway, I gave Grandad your love and told him you and Vince are doing very well and that you are both happy. It was so warm, I was walking around in short sleeves. We will probably have snow at Easter, because this weather is too good to last!!!
Monday 19th March 1990
A very Happy Belated Birthday to you. Wish we could have been there to give you hugs and kisses, but am sure Vince did that anyway. Hope you liked your pressies, it’s hard trying to pick something when you are not with us. Hope you had lots and lots of cards, sorry we missed you when we rang, but was nice to hear Vince’s voice. Hope you did well with the interview, you had to leave very early. I was going to ring about 3 o’clock our time, but thought you would still be in bed! Are you going to go somewhere nice for dinner? Hope you do, we will be thinking of you. Now that you have a car, can you drive it yet or have you got to pass your new test first? Hope it’s nice and easy. What I want to know is: how are you going to get us all in a two-seater car when you pick us up from the airport? Ha ha.
Tuesday 20th March 1990
Just got out of bed when the phone rang and James said ‘it’s Jo’. What a wonderful start to the day. Really pleased you had a lovely birthday and liked your presents. Tried to find the restaurant you went to for your birthday, but can’t see it in the booklet. You will have to tell me what you had to eat and what other presents you had and how many cards. We were hoping we never had to say this, but we have had bad news. We have lost Briar Dene, the house in Yorkshire. Mrs. Hilary rang and said how sorry she was. Well you can imagine how we felt, apparently this couple came to see it, liked it and bought it, just like that. I have very mixed feelings: I feel so sad and I feel angry that there is nothing to look forward to. I loved that cottage so much and I felt it was ours. I think there is definitely somebody up above who does not want us to move. Maybe it’s Grandad and he wants us to stay because of Nanny. I prayed every night for Briar Dene – now that you and Vince have gone, I don’t want to stay here. I think if it was not for leaving Dean and Nanny here, we would be with you tomorrow. You definitely both did the right thing by going to Canada. Poor old Dad, it’s 10.30 pm and he has been out in the garage mending his bike since he came home. He’s got it in bits, think he will be out there till midnight. Think I better take him a coffee out.
Wednesday 21st March 1990
Not a very nice day today, raining on and off. Went to pub with Pat and Mick today. You know I told you Mick’s Dad died? Well Pat and Mick have been round to his Dad’s house sorting it all out – we had such a laugh talking about all the old photos of Mick when he was a boy. Vince would have had a good laugh too. Angie had a bit of a bang in her car and has now got a collar round her neck because she jarred it badly. Hoping it might keep her quiet for a while HAHA. Not much happened on Dallas tonight, well not enough to tell you about. Dad’s been out working on his bike again tonight, but just came in and thinks he’s mended it. He won’t know until the morning when he uses it for work. Hope it will be OK, otherwise I will have to get up at 5 am to take him.
Thursday 22nd March 1990
This afternoon, went up to see Nanny – it was quite hard going to make conversation with her today. She said she’s sent you a second letter, but I don’t know whether she has or not, you’ll have to let me know. On the way home, took the car through the car wash, it was so dirty. It rained the other day and brought down this fine dust with it and the car looked disgusting. Think I’ll tell Dad I cleaned it and he will think how good I am (nasty me HAHA). I have just watched Neighbours, it was so good – they have just celebrated Christmas, it was lovely and made me a bit tearful because I was thinking how wonderful this coming Christmas is going to be and it’s getting closer all the time.
Friday 23rd March 1990
Today is the end of two lovely weeks of working without Old Face Ache – wish he would retire and let us run the practice, it runs better without him and it’s a happy place to be. When he’s there, it’s so ‘proper-like’ because he is such a pompous and boring old bugger. Went to Sainsbury’s shopping straight from work. Some stupid kid, sitting in the trolley at the cash register and stuffing his face, was sick all over the floor and as it hit the floor, it splashed all up my legs. Oh God, I felt sick myself! Had to shower when I got home. James was late home from school today, he had detention! He would not say why (of course it was not his fault?!!). I have just come back from posting off your Easter pressies – hope you like them. I know Vince will. Do they have Easter eggs in the shops there?
Saturday 24th March 1990
Raining today. Postman just delivered a nice little letter from Smokey Cat. Did you know he sent it? He’s got so clever since he has been living in Canada. He has even put his paw mark on it, bless his heart. Please give him a kiss from us. Went shopping on my own again today. Dad’s working till 5pm. When I had finished shopping and went back to the car, there was one of my bees sitting on the back shelf. She must have flown in yesterday when I was unloading my big shop. Anyway, when I got home, I took her out and put her back near the hive. She seemed OK – hope she doesn’t tell them all about the trip, I may have a car full next time! Had a nice relaxing afternoon with my knitting – watched an old black and white film (Anne of Green Gables) I do love the old films. Oh I forgot to say Nanny rang this morning, she was crying on the phone because she was so happy she’d just had a letter from you. She said she was going to take it to Bingo with her to show everyone the photos. I think it makes her feel proud to have letters from Canada and keeps her happy as well. Went to Sheila and Pete’s tonight for dinner and two more friends of theirs, who used to live in Joydens Wood, but now live in Hextable, were there too. It was a really good evening, we enjoyed ourselves very much. Got home late and the clocks had to go on one hour, so not much sleep tonight.
Sunday 25th March 1990
Heartfelt words – it was so hard to be away from Mum on this day x
First Mother’s Day card I sent from Canada – I remember tears sliding down my face in the shop when I bought it x
Quite tired this morning after a short night and poor Dad must be very tired as he had to get up and to go work. Opened your Mother’s Day card whilst eating my breakfast, such a beautiful card, thank you both with all my heart, the words were so lovely. Yours was the only one I got, did not expect one from Dean and did not get one from James, he would rather spend his money on food! I took Nanny a nice plant up in a pretty pot, she seemed pleased. From there I went to Streatham Crematorium to take a plant for Nanny Maisie and a plant for Great Nan. Gave them both your love, I also took some photos as thought you might like to keep one. Will send them with next letter. On the way home, I drove along the bit of road where you suddenly said to me “Mum, Vince and I are thinking of emigrating to Canada”. Remember? I’ll always remember it so well, but I never thought it would happen! Well there was such a lot of blimin traffic. Took me ages to get there and ages to get home – I expect everyone on the road was travelling to see their Mums and Nans. So nice to hear your voice when you rang and am so pleased you are both set up now. Your job should be interesting, might even see you on Canadian TV – it will be nice to tell people when they ask “What is Joanne doing now?” and I can say “Oh she’s working for a TV station in Canada”. I bet Vince is pleased with himself now that he is working, you have both done extremely well and we are very proud of you.
We have just watched Karate Kid 3 – was not as good as the other two, he has put on quite a lot of weight, but I still like Mr. Myogi, he’s very cute. There was one film on the trailers called “The Bear” it looked very good, but it might be a bit sad. Don’t think we, or you, had better watch it.
Monday 26th March 1990
Old Face Ache was back today, he’s not very suntanned (“we did an awful lot of sight-seeing you know, Mrs. Figg”). I said in answer – “Oh really Mr. Torry, how nice!”. We were all trying to keep out of his way, he even had to make his own coffee, he probably wishes he was still on holiday.
Well, Dad’s just off to work now (nights) so I will close. More news to follow soon.
Mum and Dad’s sign-off 26.3.90
Nanna – Heather Woolstone’s Mum, but everyone called her Nanna. A really lovely, elegant lady.
Gail – CKVU – Assistant to the President General
Sheila and Pete – we called them Auntie and Uncle, but Sheila was my Dad’s cousin. Pete, a musician, playing the electric accordion, now performs in a jazz duo with my daughter, Emma Rose (PJ and Rose)
Sheila and Patrick – the couple whose basement we are renting currently (not to be confused with Sheila and Pete!)
To my Dearest Mum & Dad,
Hello – still missing you both enormously. I guess that won’t change, but hopefully, it will get easier to bear. I just wish that sometimes I could reach out and touch you, or call you just when I feel like it, for a long chat. Oh, I’m sorry, I’ve probably depressed you both now! I’m having a bad day today. I do love getting your letters though and I love writing them back. I think I must ramble on a bit – I just don’t want to miss anything out!!
Saturday 10th March 1990
Miniature Scenic Railway in Stanley Park, such a lovely little ride
Got up and went to aerobics. I have to be there for 9 am, so it’s quite an achievement for me on a Saturday morning! Met Vince afterwards and he, Carolynn and I went for breakfast at Cafe Boulevard in Edgemont Village. It’s a really nice little village – it’s up near the Capilano Suspension Bridge. Got back to find out that Heather’s Mum had a slight stroke, so they were all quite worried, but she’s almost okay again now. We got invited upstairs to Sheila and Patrick’s for some home-made blackberry pie and ice cream, it was quite yummy. She picked the blackberries down near one of the beaches. She does quite a lot of baking. Went to Stanley Park and saw the big bear – I feel quite sorry for her being there, but she seems quite happy. She has a cub who was so cute and the mother was laying flat on her back and wriggling around, it was so funny. I’d love to cuddle her and by the way, she has enormous paws. Went on the miniature railway and saw Bison, Wolves (all in cages of course) and lots of bunnies hopping around. The rabbits are not the normal brown kind, like in England, they are all colours and patterns, like pet rabbits. It was a lovely little ride, apart from all the noisy Canadian kids when we went through a tunnel. And to think we’ll be having Canadian kids one day too! Went out for a Chinese Meal in the evening and to see “War of the Roses” at the cinema. It started off well, but turned out rubbish.
Aerial view of Stanley Park – the most amazing place to visit and right on our doorstep.
Sunday 11th March 1990
Got the bus into Port Coquitlam to see what the area is like. It’s probably half an hour drive in good traffic. Well, when we got there, it seemed like the end of the earth. It was like a ghost town! So we got another bus and got off at Coquitlam Centre which is a great big shopping centre. Had some lunch and a look around. We planned to look at some open houses today, but without a car it was impossible. Waited nearly a hour for a bus home (Sunday service doesn’t change across the world). I HATE waiting for busses!!! I haven’t cooked a Sunday roast yet in our new place, mind you I can’t say I’ve missed cooking it, but I don’t mind eating it!
Monday 12th March 1990
Vince went to work with a man from Cool King Refrigeration. He finished just after lunch because there was no work in. He thinks this guy is stringing him along a bit. He wanted Vince to work a couple of months with him before he would tell him what his wages would be, which really isn’t on. If only the Union would pull their weight and find him something. The temp agency called me to say they have work for Thursday through to the following Friday, so that’s good. Sat in the garden in the afternoon to do some letter writing, it was really warm and sunny, and from where I was sitting I could see a mountain peak covered in snow!
Tuesday 13th March 1990
Both got up early and went into town. Vince got booked in to take a TQ refresher course at night school, ready for his next exam. I tried to to find out about a word processing course, but couldn’t find one that was suitable. In the evening, Vince wrapped up my birthday present so that it could sit it with yours! After reading your letter, we realised we had forgotten pancake day, so Vince went over to the corner shop to buy some flour and lemon, and I made some. They were yummy!
Wednesday 14th March 1990
Pacific Centre Mall, Downtown Vancouver
Had a look around town today and looked at some TR6’s which were very nice but a bit tatty inside. Went to the Pacific Centre Mall which is a really lovely and all done up inside like brick houses. There are some really good shops and one in particular which sells all sorts of cottagey bits and pieces – you would love it. Met Heather on the seabus on the way home, she was pleased to see us, she says she really misses us being there. She had been for an interview at the Sinclair Centre in the Refugee Department. Met George at the other end and he told me CKVU, the local TV station, had left a message on their answerphone to say they wanted to interview me. Well, I was pleased, but Heather was ecstatic! She sure does get excited about things. By the way, she can’t wait to meet both of you. Anyway, rang the TV company from Lonsdale Quay and I have an interview on Monday. Bought a pizza, one of the ones they make up there, and then had that for dinner when we got home. Sheila invited us up for dessert, I didn’t really feel like going up, but it was worth it – she made chocolate mousse with grand marnier in it, with raspberry and loganberry sauce and ice cream. It’s her own recipe. You do have to say you’re leaving about 1/2 hour before you want to though because it takes that long to get away. They’re really sweet, but they can’t half talk and sometimes it’s irritating! I think they forget that we’re married adults – they say “are you sure you’re warm enough” and “do you know what bus you’re getting?”. Vince says it’s the Irish in them haha.
Thursday 15th March 1990
First day at work. I’m working at a shipping company, Montreal Shipping, and I’m just sending telexes and also answering the reception phone at lunch time. It’s on the 28th floor of Harbour Centre and the view is just magnificent. It looks out over the North Shore across the water, so you can see the mountains, Lion’s Gate Bridge and Stanley Park. Unfortunately, I don’t get to look at the view whilst I’m working, but it’s probably just as well as it would be a huge distraction! Today, I spent learning how to use the switchboard. The receptionist is a really nice girl called Jennifer, who is about my age. It’s quite complicated, but should be quiet in the lunch hour. Worked 8.30 – 4.30 today, which is quite nice hours except for the getting up at 6.30! But I enjoy getting the seabus to work because of the beautiful scenery on the way.
Friday 16th March 1990
Spent today on the telex with the girl I’m taking over from next week. It’s really boring, so thank goodness it’s only temporary. The telexes are easy to send, but there are four copies of everything that I have to distribute and that part is tricky. All I can say is if the wrong person gets something, they’ll have to give it to the right person! Vince met me from work and we went to see “The Hunt for Red October” at the cinema – a really good film. Went to White Spot for dinner afterwards – they do great burgers and have a special sauce called Triple O Sauce!!
Saturday 17th March 1990
Did my aerobics class but the fireman was not there, so this little Chinese girl took the class and she was a real killer! I think she was hyperactive, she just didn’t stop and she smiled the whole way through. I tried to smile, but think it was a grimace! Met Vince afterwards and we went to look at a TR6 that was advertised in the paper. It has been kept really well and has hardly a spot of rust on it. It’s a red 1969 convertible and it’s cheap. We decided to buy it – Yippee! But firstly, we have to sort out the insurance and registration document, so we will go back in the morning. Got home and on the dot of 4 pm, you called! It’s nice that you can call us on our own phone at last. As always, it was lovely to hear your voice, I just want to keep chatting though! This evening, Carolynn picked us up and we went to see a film “Driving Miss Daisy” which starred Jessica Tandy and is just a sweet and lovely film.
Sunday 18th March 1990
Went to pick up our new car!!! It was so great to eventually drive this car away, after relying on public transport for so long. We put the roof down, because it was sunny, and drove down to Deep Cove. Cor, it was brilliant and it runs so smoothly for its age. I’m not brave enough to try it yet, I want to take it somewhere quiet first, plus I need to buy a cushion as I can’t see over the steering wheel! Drove to the Woolstones who all ran out to oooh and aaah and wow at the car. They thought it was brilliant. They gave me flowers and cards and a birthday tea and even a cake with candles. The cake was just fresh cream with chocolate inside – a good few calories in there I should imagine. Got home late-ish and tried to go in quietly, but Sheila came rushing out to look at the car, so ended up having a cup of tea upstairs.
Monday 19th March 1990
Beautiful birthday gift from Vince which I still have
MY BIRTHDAY – HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME! Had to get up early because of my interview. Vince made my breakfast and I opened my cards. Had a little cry when I opened yours and James’s. They were lovely. Was going to ring you, but I would have been rushed and I was feeling tearful, so thought it would make me worse and my makeup would run! Well the interview at CKVU was short and sweet. The position is only part-time, 10-3, and it’s a bit more junior than I would like, but it’s a start and it should be interesting. There’s also the possibility of it becoming full-time and getting more responsibility. I have to go back tomorrow to meet another lady. Vince met me from work and we went out for a meal at 1066 Hastings Restaurant. You would have loved it. You sit in big high-backed armchairs and our table was in front of the fire. Came home and opened my presents – cried again! The clothes are so pretty and fit perfectly, they are just what I would have picked myself. Thank you so much. The clown from James was so sweet too. Vince bought me a crystal perfume bottle with a pewter lid and from Dean and Donna I got some eye shadow, some makeup brushes and a Harrods key-ring! When I rang you, I was so glad to speak to you on my birthday and to James too, but a shame Dad wasn’t there. I wish I could see you all so badly.
Tuesday 20th March 1990
Went back to CKVU for second interview and they offered it to me there and then and so I decided to take it. I’ll be working in the Administration office for the President General and his Assistant, Gail, who is a really nice person. At first I’ll just be doing boring tasks, but hopefully that won’t last long. Had a pretty busy day at Montreal Shipping, I’m so glad it’s only temporary though.
Wednesday 21st March 1990
Mandy phoned in the morning to wish me belated Happy Birthday. Had a bit of a natter, she was obviously calling from work, as wasn’t in a hurry to hang up. Vince went off to see a refrigeration company in Deep Cove, called Domcom. He has got a position as a helper, which is not really what he wanted, but at least it’s his trade and he can gain some Canadian experience till something better comes along. So we’re both working now anyway.
Thursday 22nd March 1990
Forgot to tell you that Vince has been given an enormous van for work, so we are now a two-car family again! Had a not-so-busy day at the shipping company. The people there are really nice and they all keep asking about England. Two of them were born there! They all keep commenting on my clothes or my shoes, they really seem to like what I wear for some reason and was told I’m always coordinated! Vince got home around 8 pm and had a good day, he got some overtime today anyway. It seemed funny to see him come in with a grubby face and hands – he’s been clean for so long! Ha ha. Spent the evening in front of the fire finishing this letter.
Jo signing off x
Our Darling Joanne and Dearest Vince,
Wednesday 7th March 1990
Hope you are both settling in well, you have been in your new home for a week – does go so quickly. Glad Smokey cat has taken to it well. On Tuesday night we watched Holiday ’90 – they took a train from Calgary right through the Canadian Rockies to Vancouver. We can only say one thing about it, it was breathtaking and you are both very lucky to be a part of it. Dad is on holiday again this week so he came to the pub with Pat, Mick and me today and I bought him lunch!
Thursday 8th March 1990
It’s such a beautiful day today, the bees are bringing back such a lot of pollen. Their little legs are wearing their yellow wellies. We have to do the first disease test today and send a sample off to a bee specialist, will let you know the outcome. You have to sedate the bees using tobacco smoke, 1/2 oz of St. Bruno!! Has your snow gone yet and what is the weather like now? I should imagine that Stanley Park is very pretty in the Spring, I have been reading about all the parks over there and can’t wait to see them. We have been watching the Canadian ice skating from Nova Scotia and I said to Dad, maybe we’ll see Jo and Vince (he called me a silly cow – rude, haha) – but we have been willing the Canadians to win!
Friday 9th March 1990
Heaven! Mr. Tory, old fish-face, face-ache, has his last day of work today for two weeks – I will actually look forward to going to work on Monday morning! I bet you’re enjoying not doing the long commute to London anymore, you must be feeling quite relaxed and glowing with health by now?!! When Dad and I were shopping this afternoon, Dad found a £5 note in the carpark, good job James wasn’t with us, he would have seen it first haha. Dad bought me a very pretty bone-china mug with bees on the outside and inside. Dad has just come back from the Doctors and had his ears blown out as he calls it! He feels a bit better now. Kirk Browning from Canada has just won the gold medal for skating – that’s the first time I’ve ever heard the Canadian National Anthem, it’s a nice piece of music, not boring like “God Save The Queen”!
Saturday 10th March 1990
Shopping day again – Dad came with me today, but he trots around so fast, we don’t have time to stop for tea or coffee. He says we don’t have to pay them (tight bugger) when we can have a drink at home! Rang Bee Dave and he said not to do the disease test because of the young bees, it might harm them. We’ve put on the first hive extension today, so it gives the bees plenty of room now. Went to visit Sheila and Pete tonight, had a nice chatty evening. Sheila loved the wedding video and they send you and Vince their love.
Mum liked to send me amusing cuttings from the English newspapers!
Sunday 11th March 1990
Not done much today, I have been very lazy. Watched a film this afternoon (Reach For the Sky) then you rang. Wonderful to hear your voice once a week, makes me feel so happy. When we rang and missed you last night, I had a chat to Sheila, she sounds so nice and she said it’s lovely having you both there. She also invited us to dinner when we come to see you. God, I wish it was soon. I am so pleased you got your parcel in time for your birthday – it got there so quickly, we were surprised.
Monday 12th March 1990
Beautiful day again, Tommy Tortoise came out again and ate some cucumber – I gave him a nice wash. This evening we went to The King’s Head in Bexley with the Bee Club, there were 46 of us. It was a very good night and needless to say our table was the noisiest! James had some friends round while we were out – they watched a film and drank all our coke and orangeaid!! But there was no mess, only empty glasses, thank goodness.
Tuesday 13th March 1990
Very cold and damp today. Went to have my hair cut and saw Bill and he sends his regards to you both. He said if there was one place in the world where he would like to live, it would be Vancouver. He wants to know if you’re coming back for your hair cuts?! I told him with all his money, he could open a salon in Vancouver!! Went for a talk at Bee Club on how to identify the pollen loads the bees bring back. Dad wasn’t with me because he’s on nights, so went on my own and got lost as it was in Beckenham! But I got there in the end and the talk was very interesting.
Wednesday 14th March 1990
Pay day and Pub Day again! Dad went to the doctors again about his ear and he’s been given some more antibiotics, so hope that clears it up, it has been giving him a lot of pain. We had a phone call from a man who wanted to come and view the house, so I rushed around and made it look neat and tidy and yes you’ve guessed it, he didn’t turn up. I’m getting really fed up about the whole thing. I’ve got this deep feeling that we are going to lose Briar Dene in Yorkshire. If we do, I think we’ll give up and stay here.
Thursday 15th March 1990
Another gorgeous day. When I came home from work, Dad and I went to Hall Place and walked around the gardens. There were so many flowers and so much colour, it was so pretty. We were literally walking among the daffodils. Went up to see Dean tonight and took Nan with us. DJ looked nice and cuddly, he had just had a bath and smelled baby clean. Dean kept asking about you and Vince. They now have a nice glass cabinet and have put all the glasses you gave them into it – at least we can have a drink out of a glass and not a mug now. Haha.
Friday 16th March 1990
Your letters and photos came today. James was over the moon with his. Won’t let anyone touch it. I love your letters, they are so long and interesting and gives us such a good insight to things that you do and see. The photos are absolutely beautiful, just can’t believe all that snow and your new home looks and sounds really gorgeous. The kitchen looks so big and we are very jealous of the open fire, the lounge looks very cosy. Love the pictures of Smokey Cat, bless his heart. Our bee meeting tonight was at Hurst Place, Sidcup in Room 14 – do you remember that room where you used to have dance lessons? It brought back a lot of lovely memories and I found myself staring at the floor, thinking my little Joanne’s feet had danced all over it, I could even picture Miss Mabbott sitting by the window.
Another parcel is on its way to you both – Easter prezzies! Well my Darling, we hope you have a wonderful birthday, wish we could be with you. Will close now until next letter.
Sign off from Mum & Dad xx
Starring roles from these letters:
Bee Dave – a friend of Pat’s (I had forgotten about him!)
Judy – Nan’s dog
Joan – my best friend, Karen’s Mum
Vivian – my Step Nan’s daughter
Hayley – my niece, who was also my little bridesmaid
Blue – Smokey cat’s brother
Sheila and Patrick (the Irish couple we are renting from)
Sunday 25th February 1990
Darling Joanne / Dearest Vince,
Hello again. Never done so much writing my my life before – Dad said it’s good for my brain (cheek). By the way, all the big words come from your old dictionary. Well the weather is back to normal again, gale force winds and lots of heavy rain. The few warm days we had, all the blossom came out and looked very pretty, now nearly all gone because of rain and winds. Saw Nan today, she was very pleased to show us your letter, so hopefully you will get one from her now if she remembers?! She does not want to go to Jersey now. One day she says it is too dear, the next day it is too far away, the next day she says she can’t leave Judy, the next thing is that her friend is not going, and so on and so on. So we have given up with asking. If I turn out like Nan, please shoot me (don’t answer that Vince).
Monday 26th February 1990
I hate Mondays. What are Mondays like in Vancouver? Are they as bad as ours? At work today, had a good talk with Pat about Dave. You know, Bee Dave! She came to the Bee meeting Friday with him and not Mick. Although she won’t say outright, I think there might be something going on between them (serves Mick right!) – will let you know what happens. I could ask her, but I think she would tell me if she wanted to. We have still got gale force winds, lots of damage. Do they tell you about the gales in England on your TV news?
Tuesday 27th February 1990
Pancake Day! Do you have Pancake Day? Oh sorry, I forgot you have them everyday for breakfast, don’t you!? Hope you are not putting on too much weight now. Saw Nan again today, she was a bit depressed, but she did not know why. Joan rang me today. Wanted to know how you both are getting on, so I told her all the news that was in your letter. I think she was impressed. She’s going to tell Karen now.
Wednesday 28th February 1990
Vivian and the two girls came to the dentist today, so I took your wedding album in to show her, she thought you looked beautiful and she said the dress was exquisite. She thought Vince was very good looking and you go well together, so now she wants to see the video. She also sends her love and good wishes to you both in your new life in Canada. James is looking forward to going to her wedding in April, just to see the girls, who are both very pretty. Will take photos and send to you. Went to the pub with Pat after work, but could not talk much girl talk because Mick decided to join us. James came home tonight from work and we sat and talked for about an hour about the old days – Nan/Grandad, you/Vince, Dean – and about school. He can be very sensible at times, but he’s very good at mimicking people and he makes me laugh! I think he gets it from Vince!
Thursday 1st March 1990
Your moving day! We will be thinking of you. Posted your birthday present today, something for all of you. Do hope it gets there for the 19th because you’re birthday cards are in there as well. I wish I could have folded myself up and got in as well. Went to see Cynthia this afternoon straight from work. I took some flowers for her and she seemed pleased to see me. Of course I got lost, I ended up near Thamesmead, God knows how I got there (don’t laugh Vince). She was very pleased with the photos I took for her of our dinner at the Bull & Victoria. Hayley came in and said, “Oh it’s Joanne’s Mummy” – she gave me such a nice kiss and cuddle. Cynthia and I talked so much about you and Vince and we both had a little tear. Told her how I tried to be brave when you both left on the Thursday night and how gutted I felt when you went up the road, round the bend out of sight, and she said she felt exactly the same way. I think it’s a nice little house, she showed me all around. Tried to talk her into having my bees when we move but she did not think much of the idea! When I first went in I said, “Oh hello Smokey Cat” because of B.J. and Blue, they all look so alike. B.J. sat on my lap and it was lovely because I felt like I was holding Smokey. When I left, Cyn said, “come again soon”. It was a very nice afternoon – Cyn did tell me a better way to go home, but I got lost again and ended up in Erith!! Oh I forgot, Cyn was over the moon when Vince rang her and said she got a bit upset. I got home about 6.15, so dinner was late.
Friday 2nd March 1990
What a lovely big package the postman has delivered this morning – made me late for work. God, the letter is so long it’s like a book. Thank you so much for the photos, the one of you and Vince is so lovely, I am going to frame it. The new basement you moved into yesterday sounds very nice. Hope Vince is right and it has an open fire – we can just picture you at night with your feet up and a nice bottle of wine and Smokey purring. You will have to take some photos of the inside and outside and let me have them. I would really love to see and touch the snow – hope it snows at Christmas! The sights at night sound absolutely wonderful, you are making us all very envious. I hope you hear something soon from the jobs you have applied for, but in the meantime, I’m sure the rest is doing you good. How lovely to hear from Wendy – Dad said perhaps if we told her we missed you she would send us tickets – haha! Thank you for the visitor’s guide, I am going to read EVERYTHING in it, so when we come we will know all about it. Did not do much work at the dentist today – took your letter and kept reading bits out to the girls saying, “listen to this”!
James has met this girl and she has a horse which she comes round on and James rides it down on the field. He thinks he is real cool!! Well I am going to read your letter again now with a cup of coffee and go to bed.
Saturday 3rd March 1990
The high winds and rain have stopped, a really nice day today, warm enough for the bees to fly again. Dad working all day so went shopping on my own – that’s when I really do miss you. I don’t stay long in Dartford, I get what I have to and go straight home. Hope you have settled into your new home and enjoying it. I wonder what Smokey thinks. The wedding photos arrived today, so we are getting a lovely dark wood frame for the big photo of you and Vince sanding outside the church and putting it on the drink’s cabinet, then I can sit and look at you all night. At the moment, Dad is trying to mend my new vacuum cleaner and not having much luck – he doesn’t know what’s wrong with it and he’s swearing a bit! And because I broke his screwdriver this afternoon, and it’s the only one he can use on it, he keeps saying SHIT!! When I came home from Dartford today, I went mad with housework, it’s the sun that does it! When I shook Shake and Vac everywhere, turned the vacuum on and nothing happened, you can just imagine how I felt! Dad’s found out what’s wrong now, said it’s a long job! Hang on a mo, the phone is ringing! It was My Jo! It’s so lovely to hear your voice when you ring, you sound a bit more happy each time we speak to you. That makes us feel better too. Handing you over to Dad now:
Bloody old foreign vacuum cleaner – had to strip all of it down. Turned out to be a broken power cable inside of the cable rewind, what a pig to get at, it said in the book ‘if rewind spool is faulty, you have to send it to a special dealer’. But I sorted it out, took me two hours. Mum can vacuum all the Shake and Vac up now. For all that though, it’s a bloody good vacuum!
Sunday 4th March 1990
I feel happy on a Sunday morning after speaking to you on the Saturday. Dad working all day again. A nice sunny day today, I had to wait quite a long time before I could put any washing out, too many bees in the garden! James has gone down to the stables in Bexley, he is getting quite Horsey lately! Picked Nanny up for the day, she was in quite good form. Showed her your long letter, she took ages to read it. Can’t get her to understand about your basement, she thinks it’s a cellar. She said, “does everybody have to live in them when they first get there?” Haha. So perhaps you can explain to her a bit better next time you write to you and send her a photo of it. She has written a letter to you, so I will post it off for her. Did you cook a roast dinner today as it is the first Sunday in your new basement apartment on your own?
Monday 5th March 1990
Started to sort out those old photos today in your old room, there’re so many and I have thrown such a lot away as a lot of them are just views. I got quite excited on the way home from work as I thought I saw your car, but it wasn’t! Stupid woman behind was blowing her hooter, that made me very cross, mind you I was holding the traffic up a bit.
Tuesday 6th March 1990
Dad’s been to the doctors today to get his ears syringed, but has got to wait until Friday as he’s got to take a five-day course of antibiotics because of an infection (poor old Dad).
Mum’s sign off x
James: (15 years old)
17th February 1990
Dear Jo and Vince,
I hope you are getting on well with the Mounties over there in Canada. I hope Vince has started his new job. Let me tell you what’s happened to me since you left.
Friday – Set my alarm for 6 o’clock and got up at half past 7. Mum told me off. I had the normal day at school, all the aggro from the teachers etc. Came home, packed and went to Dean’s to stay for the weekend and dopey old me missed the train didn’t I? Anyway, I was only half an hour late. Met Dean at London Bridge, bought myself a large McDonald’s which Dean finished most of!
Saturday – As I was at Dean and Donna’s, I thought I’ll have a nice lay in. Unfortunately, I slept in till 12 o’clock – Damn! I missed “Going Live”. I didn’t eat the cereal Donna gave me because the night before D.J. had been playing with the box in the loo and you know what their loo is like. I had a boring day really – Dean came home from work and we watched telly. I had to walk down to the shop in the rain with Dean so he could get his fags!
Sunday – Got up at 9 o’clock because Charlie wanted to play Thundercats, what a bore! Dean got up about 11 o’clock, still half asleep. I played with D.J. most of the day until he poo’d himself.
Monday – I was home at last – back to the normal stuff, paper-rounds and school (boring!) Oh I was thinking about you all weekend. I had a boring day at school. When I got home I fell asleep and woke up after “Neighbours” – Damn, I missed it. Never mind, Mum probably recorded it. I hope you are looking after the St. Christopher I gave you.
Tuesday – Got up and went to school – how boring! Anyway, it was soon over, went round Darren’s to help him tidy the loft. Had dinner, went to bed.
Wednesday – I got up very late today and was late for school, never mind! I went up Simon Mitchell’s after dinner without Darren, it was quite boring really.
Thursday – I was up bang on time for once, what a surprise! A hard day at school, I was knackered, phew! I had home-made spag bog for tea, yum. I stayed in most of the night.
Friday – Well a whole week gone since you left. I had another boring day at school.
Such a funny letter. Love my baby bro x
Well, I have to leave you now, I have to go to school. I hope to hear from you soon. Say Hi to Smokey.
Hmmmm – a talented cat indeed! And a slightly crazy owner!
Nan: (bless her)
Dear Joanne and Vince,
I hope you got out to Canada safe and sound. I have been thinking of you both. What is the weather like out there, it has been very cold today, but I got all my washing dry. Mum came up this afternoon but did not stop long. I am going down there for dinner tomorrow. I have not been very well today, I can’t get Grandad out of my mind, but time will Heal won’t it? I am going to Dartford tomorrow with my friend. I go to Bingo with my friend Irene, it gets me out for a while. Well, how are you getting on? Is Vince liking Canada, is it cold out there like it is in England? It has not been cold today, I don’t like it when the Winter comes, I like Summer best.
Well I am going to have a bath now and then go to bed. Well take care of yourself and Vince and I will write again soon.
Letter from my beautiful Nan x
Well God bless you and Vince and keep you safe. All my love to you both. Nan
Dear Mum and Dad,
Still missing you both so much. I keep having dreams that you’re close to me, which is a real disappointment when I wake up, but quite comforting as well as they feel very real. I got your second letter two days ago on the same day that I got James’ and also a letter from a friend, so I was in my glory that day! Deep Cove, which I mentioned in my first letter is just a quiet little village in a cove with a lovely view. It’s not far from the Woolstone’s home. We liked he idea of living there, but it’s far too expensive now. Apparently a lot of famous people live there. Nice to hear Tommy Tortoise is out and about, give him and Sam a kiss from me. Ah poor Dad, having to take over my role of Saturday shopping with Mum. I’d gladly fly over every Saturday to relieve you of it! Well, here’s what we’ve been up to.
Friday 23rd February 1990
Stanley Park showing the seawall … miss this scenery!
Was a nice sunny day today. I think I mentioned on the phone that we walked the whole of the sea wall around Stanley Park, which is about five or six miles! You’re so interested in the scenery that you don’t really notice how far you’re going. Every turn has a different view, it’s wonderful. It really was a lazy, hazy day in Stanley Park. Stopped at the end for some lunch which we thoroughly deserved! We saw a man walking in the park and he had a rabbit sitting in his pocket! The rabbit looked as though he was enjoying himself. I want to take Smokey one day, but Vince thinks I’m daft. We’ll see … Had a walk round Canada Place, you remember the big building that looks like a ship with Concorde on top. Watched Dallas in the evening and got well confused, I think we are a couple of months ahead here!!
Saturday 24th February 1990
Canada Place – the cruise ships that docked here were MASSIVE!
Went to aerobics with Carolynn. It’s at the same place as the pool. I really enjoyed it and managed to do everything – just about! The instructor is a fireman and he has nice legs!! Went for a walk around Capilano Mall, they have some nice clothes and shoe shops in there. Got home and you called! It was lovely, although there was a bit of an echo at my end. Got a bit tearful when I put the phone down. Went out for a meal at the Thai House Restaurant with Cheryl, Carolynn and Riyaz, who we have met before. The food was yummy and we had a nice evening – after that went to see a film about Niagara Falls at the CN Imax Cinema at Canada Place. It has a huge screen which makes you feel as though you’re inside it, it was very impressive.
Sunday 25th February 1990
Went to Granville Island with Cheryl – I could hardly walk, I was so stiff from doing aerobics the day before! It was quite warm today as well. Granville Island is a fascinating place, it has a huge fruit and vegetable market plus lots of craft shops. They had some lovely glass perfume bottles there. Had roast dinner again tonight – they now know how to cook roast potatoes. Cheryl’s boyfriend, Sean, came to dinner. He is going to play professional football and has been picked as number one choice to play for Edmonton!
Monday 26th February 1990
Today I had my hair permed! I forgot to tell you on the phone that I had booked the appointment. I went to Cheryl’s hairdresser who seems to be very good. As always, it looks a bit frizzy at first, but will soon drop. Went out to buy some proper trainers for my aerobics class, so now I’m all set. Heard today there have been very bad winds in England – Again!! I hope you haven’t had any damage.
Tuesday 27th February 1990
Went into Lonsdale to sort out our medical insurance. We can’t join the scheme here for two months, so we had to get cover until then, but it’s all sorted out now. It was quite expensive, but better to be safe than sorry. It’s a really beautiful day today, 18 degrees. Vince went down to his shirtsleeves! I undid my coat, but that’s enough for now!! There was a new moon tonight, so I made a wish on it for you both – I won’t tell you what it was ’cause that’s bad luck, but you can probably guess.
Wednesday 28th February 1990
Went to Lonsdale, met Heather and a workmate of hers, Lynn, for lunch. Went to the Quay afterwards and sat in the sun with a view of the city across the Burrard Inlet, which I love to gaze at, and we had an ice cream. The ice creams are made with fresh fruit and are very refreshing and yummy. In the evening George took Vince to see The Vancouver Canucks (Ice Hockey) – they were playing Edmonton. He really enjoyed it, I’m going to go next time. Smokey was allowed upstairs tonight and he immediately jumped into one of their armchairs, he’s getting cheekier by he minute since he got here. It must be something in the air! He found the stairs a novelty, he runs to the top and then half runs, half slides back down again – it’s so funny!
Thursday 1st March 1990
Smokey settling in to his new abode
MOVING IN DAY!! Heather and George moved us and on the way we took Smokey to the Blueridge-Cove Animal Hospital for his Rabies vaccination. He was not happy and moaned all the way. The vet was brilliant, he checked him over better than the one in England did before we left! He has to go back in a couple of weeks to get his teeth cleaned as he has really inflamed gums, poor thing! Went to Save-On to get some shopping, that was fun. Went out to dinner at the Sizzler, this place you have to see. James could stuff himself silly – you get soup, steak, jacket spud or fries and the salad bar and you can go back to the salad bar as many times as you like. The salad bar is more than just salad, it has fruit salad, pasta salads, tacos and fillings, tortilla chips – and more! Anyway, it came to the equivalent of about £5.00 each.
Friday 2nd March 1990
Open fire, dodgy perm and 80’s shoulder pads!!
Unpacked all our clothes – it was wonderful to hang everything up and not live out of a suitcase anymore. So nice to be on our own as well. Wendy called to see if I was okay and she took the new address and phone number. Had our first dinner in the new place, then sat in the lounge all evening reading in front of the open fire. Cor, it was lovely! I’m enclosing a few photos for you. On the other side of the kitchen, there’s a large area with a desk where I have put all our going away cards and where I write my letters. Smokey seems to like it very much here and he has a large patio garden to go out in. There’s no tree though, but hopefully our next place will have one for him. We also have a dishwasher which is a treat, but no microwave, but I guess we can do without that for now!
Goodbye and good luck cards and flower basket from my friend, Wendy
Saturday 3rd March 1990
My favourite, strawberries and cream. Mmmmm.
Went to aerobics again, then Vince, Carolynn and I went out to breakfast to the Dutch Pannekoek House, so I have probably put back on all those calories that I’d just worked off at aerobics! Called you when we got home – the weeks go so fast that I seem to speak to you quite often which is great. Went for a walk to Lynn Valley Canyon, which is ten minutes from where we are now living. It was very pretty and has another suspension bridge, which is smaller than Capilano and has a waterfall next to it – it is so amazing to be able to go around the corner from home and see a sight like that. Got home to find that a huge basket of plants had arrived from Wendy, it’s beautiful and I can hardly lift it – it’s got a hyacinth, some miniature roses and a few different plants too, it was certainly a nice surprise.
We visited here often, such raw beauty
Sunday 4th March 1990
Sheila and Patrick took us to various locations in West Vancouver. They showed us lots of secluded little beaches with lovely views and some great picnic spots. It was a very warm day and we all got slightly rosy cheeks. We had lunch in Horseshoe Bay, which is a lovely spot, where ferries come and go to local islands, including Vancouver Island – then in the late afternoon, went for a drink in a pub at Lonsdale Quay – not really a pub as we know it though! Went to the Woolstones for dinner and took them a cake and some flowers to say thanks for having us. They really seem to miss us and Heather says she can always have a laugh with us when we’re there.
Monday 5th March 1990
Went to Lonsdale about our photos – you’ll notice that some of them have a green line through them, so they are trying to get us a refund from Kodak as it must have been a faulty film. Went to Mark Norman’s office to pick up a reference that Trinifold had faxed over for me. This evening stayed in again with the fire.
Tuesday 6th March 1990
Went over to the Woolstone’s house to use their word processor and printed up some more CV’s for myself and Vince. Vince called the Union today and they are going to put him out to work – he can’t wait. I can – I’m enjoying being a lady of leisure. Took a trip to Capilano Mall to sort out our phone, we have the phone and they are coming out to connect it on Friday 16th. They even gave us a choice of telephone numbers! After our dinner, this evening, Sheila and Patrick invited us upstairs to have apple pie and ice cream. Smokey was allowed up too and he had a good old snoop around, nosy little bugger! Got your letter, and James’, and one from a friend too. Yay!
Wednesday 7th March 1990
Typed a couple of letters on Sheila’s typewriter. I applied for a couple of jobs from the paper, one for Molson Breweries and one for a fashion company. Rang North Shore Studios but unfortunately, they have no vacancies at the moment. They will keep me on file. Jayne from Trinifold called and said that Bryan Adams had called Roger Daltrey to say his manager is looking for an assistant, so Roger told him about me and he seemed quite interested. I spoke to Roger’s wife, who said she’d get somebody to call me, but I haven’t heard anything yet. I’d love to get that job and also their offices are in Gastown! Vince went to see the Union today and paid a fee to join them. They are very keen on him and don’t want to lose him, so hopefully they’ll have him working in no time. Heather came over for a short while in the evening to see how we’re getting on. Found out that all our money has been transferred from England now, so at the moment, we’re very rich!
Thursday 8th March 1990
Got up late to find it was snowing! Couldn’t believe it, and it was starting to lay. Went into Vancouver for an appointment with Hunt Temp Agency. They gave me a typing test for which I got 60 words per minute with no mistakes. They also tested me on spelling and vocabulary. The vocabulary part was quite difficult, but anyway, they’ve taken me on, so I’m just waiting for them to give me some work. Afterwards, we walked around town for a bit then came back on the Seabus to Lonsdale Quay and had dinner in another Italian Restaurant called Corsi Trattoria. We had the mixed pasta dish for two people and it was deeeeelicious!! We felt so fat afterwards though.
Friday 9th March 1990
Vince went off to meet a man from a fridge firm called Cool King. He met him for breakfast in town. He seemed very interested in Vince, but he’s non-union and it’s best if Vince keeps on the side of the Union at the moment – they pay more money too. At least this man is a possible contact for the future. The snow has stopped today, but the rain is absolutely chucking it down. Cheryl came to look at our place, she really liked it. She drove us into Capilano Mall and we had a look around and had some lunch. We might go and see a film tonight, if we feel like braving the rain, called “Red October” with Sean Connery. If we do I’ll let you know in the next letter. Oh also, I received my package today, so am waiting eagerly for my birthday to find out what’s inside!!
P.S. and more x